There is a quote that I love…
It will all work out in the end. If it hasn’t worked out, then it’s not the end
I don’t know who said/wrote that, but it has always stuck with me.
Is it strange to be thinking about endings when it is only the beginning of the year? Probably, but you see I’ve been dealing with some pretty big stuff over the last couple of weeks and I’ve had to keep reminding myself of this quote. It’s the only way I can get through it all without collapsing in a heap.
As a romance writer, I am all about the HEA – Happy Ever After. It’s why I love the genre. No matter what happens you are guaranteed that everything will work out. The girl will get the guy and the job and the million dollars and they will ride off into the sunset with their story wrapped up in a neat and tidy little bow. That may be over-simplifying it, but you get the gist. Some people even disparage the genre because of it’s dogged determination to stick with the HEA. For me? It’s the reason I read it. I need to know that everything will work out in the end.
I was listening to a song today called ‘All Ends Well’ by Alter Bridge (who are a heavy metal/alternative metal/hard rock band). It’s a great song with some incredible lyrics.
I know that not everything always works out in the end, but I have to keep believing that it will. When we lose hope in a better future, we lose the reason to get up in the morning.
I heard another quote:
Stop expecting it to be easy
Now you might think that this quote contradicts my belief in a happy ever after, but I don’t agree. If you go through life expecting things to be easy, you will be constantly disappointed and disillusioned – your happy ending will seem impossible.
Knowing that you will face adversity doesn’t mean that you are not still hoping for a victory. When you stop expecting life to be easy, the pressure to have everything just fall in your lap eases and you are better equipped to deal with adversity when it comes.
Expecting to face adversity stops you feeling like a failure when it inevitably lands on your doorstep. It also means that your hope of a happy ending doesn’t perish. When you expect things to always be easy, when they are not easy it will seem like your happy ending is lost.
It sounds a bit like reverse-psychology but it is a matter of holding two conflicting ideas in your head at the same time – simple!
Yes, there will be hard times and they will hurt like hell, but all ends well.